AM I A REAL FRIEND?

What is FRIENDSHIP? It is a relationship between two people who hold mutual affection for each other. They say, it is friendship when a person has the tendency to desire what is best for the other, when you share honesty, when you enjoy each other's company, and when you have trust with each other. 

Friends and acquaintances are often reciprocated as the same continuum. You'll only know the difference, when these acquaintances are really friends. Here, we could detest who are really real and those who are fake. 

To me, friendship means having mistakes and flaws without getting any judgement. 

HOW TO CHOOSE FRIENDS

Righteous. Good examples. Godly counsels. Not bad influences. Never lead you astray. Someone who will guide you to the right direction. Someone who will always remind you of the real purpose of your life, which is to serve God and live according to His will. [Proverbs 12:26] 

Wise. Someone who seeks wisdom and not knowledge. Most of all, not a fool. Knowledge is easy to understand, wisdom is not. Knowledge is found, wisdom is searched and delved. For wisdom is built within the strong foundation of knowledge, it is the opposite of folly. What foolishness brings us is senselessness. And it isn't in the path of understanding. A friend teaches you what is right and never of what is wrong. [Proverbs 13:20; 14:6,7]

To sum it all up, we need BI's. Not the typical meaning of Bad Influence as you may know and say, but Best Influence. Someone who is not subjected to anger, never wrathful, and never a bad company. For bad company ruins good morals. [1 Corinthians 15:33]

Maybe after reading this section of my blog, you may think "I'm doomed, friends are hard to find. I'm forever alone." The stronger the realization of this, the higher your standards will be. People are not made perfect. We may not find all those qualities. It is because we are not looking. And where should we start looking? It is in ourselves. 

IMPORTANCE OF FRIENDSHIP

We fail when we have no guidance. But with friends who are giving you advice, you will find safety. When we listen to advice, we gain wisdom. When we gain wisdom and apply it in our lives, we are wise. 

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. When we find true friends, we become equal. We find better judgement and understanding. Friends lead us to the path God wants us to be. A friend desires what is better for his friend. A friend looks out for his friend. 

Am I a real friend?

Sincerely Asking, 
Author Known 

WHAT CAME MY WAY

I don't know how others could relate to this but I know somehow it's just by faith that I am writing now. It's has been a while since I last blogged. And I know it's kinda odd for me to write in this time. But I just want you to know how I feel now. 

A year ago: I felt my life has no direction. I'm just going with the flow of whom I am with and with the environment they are introducing to me. I really embraced that nature since. I never thought about what's right or wrong. I just know that with all these things that I have, I find happiness.

Now: I feel like my life has purpose. I'm going against the flow of the world. Though I am trying and struggling, I know God is with me, with whatever I do. Process. It takes time. It's not just in a snap or blink that I changed. Things that are easy to get, easily fly away. And I think a strong foundation is what I am trying to build now. It's such a miracle that I found God's grace pouring out on me. 

A year ago: I was afraid to stand up for my faith. Peer. Pressure. I was an introvert. Everybody knows that. I don't stand up or even express what I feel. I felt intimidated with other people's choices. I was an outcast. I don't play the game. 

Now: Look at me. I don't know how God has changed me. I may not really know I am changing bit by bit everyday. But I can see how people see in me. I am not the introvert type (well, maybe you'll find me like that sometimes, but not as often as before). I feel secure of how I could express and step out with what God has given me. 

Sometimes, we play the game even though we know we will lose in the end.

Sometimes, we don't play the game even though we know we will win in the end. 

I'm asking you, which is better? Risks are really hard to take. But when we take it with God, we will not lose. I was like the un-player though I know I will win in the end. I was a no-good, I was afraid to take risks. I was afraid on tripping and stumbling. I was afraid of pain. 

I realized, Jesus endured that pain on the cross, just to redeem us with His precious blood. There are much things that I should be thankful about. Because they are too many, I can't even say everything. 

I want myself to be consumed by the fire devoting to Him. Every single inch of me. It is not because I chose Him, but because He has chosen me to be one of His.

What came my way? It was more of, who came with me to travel the way. 

Joyful and Happy,

Author Unknown :))

TODAY IS TUESDAY

Today is Tuesday and it is raining. Imagine me saying this like a preschooler. I was just moved by how my brother was doing in school. Justin, my youngest brother got a perfect score in spelling today. He was bragging it to my face just now. 

Why am I telling this? I realized something. It is not by intelligence that he perfected the test. It was his determination to keep up with others because he was left behind. 

Imagine if everyone was made perfect. Then there would be no sense of trying to be better. Because you are already perfect. To me, I'm fine with being good. But that is the shallowest thing I have ever believed in. I was assured I was already perfect. I thought I am. Because I felt superior to others. I thought I was better than others. 

Those, I am wrong. Now I know why don't mature in every single aspect that I have. I was ignorant. I was fault seeking. I was selfish. 

It's better to have many flaws. Not to make those flaws un-flawed, but to improve that aspect. It's really a mindful thing for me. Because now I have reconsidered what I have not seen in the past seventeen years of my existence. 

HUMILITY is needed. In order to achieve complete improvement. 

And it is what I need to learn. 

Sincerely,

Author Unknown, :))